17 + 18 Accept yourself (Energy Profiling)

by Suzanne L. Beenackers/ LS Harteveld
Long read, 20-30 minutes

In 2015 I wrote two blog posts about Energy Profiling. Since then, Energy Profiling has become second nature to me, and it has helped me understand myself, my business, and I how to solve problems (or why they’re problems 😉
After Astrology (during my twenties) and Ayurveda (in my thirties), Energy Profiling will be the personal development tool of my current decade. Because Energy Profiling is so little known, I decided to merge last year’s blog posts, and rewrite them to this new, all-encompassing piece on Energy Profiling.

In the first part – Be a natural beauty –  I ll introduce the 4 types and then I ll go by all four again, including their wardrobes, and explain if this system will benefit you, depending on your type and your gender.

In the second part – Accept Yourself – I ll elaborate on how the 4 types argue (or don’t argue), what their attractor factor is, and how they behave sexually.

In the final part, reference, I will include all links to the original material from Carol Tuttle, including the free online Beauty Profiling Course and the free Energy Profiling Course.

PART 1 BE A NATURAL BEAUTY

Someone noticed I was wearing red lipstick. It was fire alarm red, so it would have been hard not to notice, but the thing was: I never wore that before. In my teens a lot, in my twenties less, and in my thirties just occasionally and never without feeling it fit right into the list of Most Common Mistakes Women Over 30 Make.
Along with bleaching my hair.
No woman looks good in the same things as when she was 19! Bad woman!
And I saw the evidence around me as well: so many women who looked not good at all, with red lips or blonde hair.
If I didn’t want to end up a total clown, I had to start dressing my age. So I stopped dyeing it for as long as I could bare the dreadful ashy tone, and always pulled it back tight, in a bun. It felt weird never letting my hair down, but I just hated all that movement going on around my head.

When I could bare no more I started dyeing it again. But I would choose richer shades of blond. Early 2014 I went full-on blonde, for a photo-shoot, and although it felt like I just lost 20 years, I knew I had fallen from grace again, since I was relapsing to my 19 year old self.
And then fate struck: my hairdresser cut my bob line a little too short leading to….CURLS.
The platinum blonde jaw long bob line from earlier that year had faded into autumn colored curls. The horror.
Again: I didn’t necessarily look bad, but I felt bad.

But thanks to Carol Tuttle’s beauty profiling system, I now know there is a reason you feel horrible in certain clothes, or with certain hair:
because it conflicts with your energy.
Knowing your beauty profiling type will explain what your strengths are, and how dressing a certain way can enhance those. And dressing like one of the other types can fight you, or drain 4 types jolieyour energy.

Study the two pictures of Angelina Jolie: she’s a type 2. If she wears soft colors her beauty is enhanced. If she wears bright red lipstick, it conflicts with her energy.
Angelina also always wears her hair down, flowing and soft: something only a type 2 will feel comfortable with.

In Carol’s system I m a type 4: Bold. Outspoken. Reflective. Still.
My h4 typesair needs to be pulled back or straight, because I get sick of all that movement going around my head. It needs to be STILL.
And I need to bleach it (or dye it much darker) to create contrast because I think in black and white. That’s how I keep order in my head.
All clothes and hair-dos that are rich in texture, asymmetrical, or come in natural tones, will be able to drive me crazy…. Suddenly it made sense why I never wore those bulky knitted sweaters that were supposed to keep me warm on winter days. I would probably rather freeze to death. In my smooth silky pajamas that give no warmth whatsoever but so much more peace of mind.

The four types – introduction

Yoga with Adriene, is an example of a Type 1 woman: Bright and Animated.
A movie star with type 1 is Marilyn Monroe: her face is childlike, and she is (keyword for type 1) CUTE
Just like Tara Stiles and Adriene!
If you’ve watched her/ their videos, you know type 1’s  are always making fun and keeping things light. They’re like a ray of sunshine on your yoga mat.
I’m often quite opinionated on teachers who make physical adjustments- it’s when they come onto your mat and start pulling on your limbs (Oh! That didn’t come out judgmental at all)
I think I would refine my opinion to that it depends on the type of teacher:
A type 1 teacher, like Tara Stiles or Adriene, coming onto your yoga mat is like a fairy tiptoeing there. And she/he is just bound to make you laugh!
A type 1 teacher doesn’t have the seriousness to make their presence feel invasive.

Type 2 people, are sensitive and connected to the people around them. They’re gentle and peaceful, and will often have children and then they’re the kind of parent that is home for tea and cookies and makes all the treats herself (or himself).
They will love taking pictures, and cherish the memories for their whole family.
They’re very beautiful, because of this peaceful, gentle energy. And you will want to cuddle with them, or maybe that’s just me… because I absolutely adore them.
A Type 2 Yoga Teacher would be Meghan Currie: she has a flowing energy, and is very compassionate and sweet in her teachings, but also extremely detailed in her instructions.
An example of a type 2 movie star is Angelina Jolie.

Type 3 people, for example Oprah Winfrey, are at first sight the opposite of Type 2’s:
They will take on 5 projects at a time (of which one could be “conquer the world”) , and find a way to make it work. Now naturally if you have a type 3 parent, this can easily be overbearing. Just think of a parent with the talent to rule a nation, and instead it’s a stay at home mom with 2 children. That’s not going to work.
Type 3 yoga teachers are Shiva Rea and Sadie Nardini, and they are all about transformation, and work. When a Type 3 yoga teacher comes onto your mat, it might feel like you just became someone’s project, and that they’re determined to pull you through and push you to your next level.
I ll leave it up to you, to decide how much you want to welcome that onto your yoga mat.

When I go through the Type 4 list of famous people (Liv Tyler, Elizabeth Taylor, Twiggy, Tom Cruise and Johnny Depp ) I have the feeling the other types have “a better team”. Like Brad Pitt is a 3. The biggest stars appear to be other types. But I think this is no coincidence!
Type 4 people are focused on themselves. Únless you are one of their closest of kin, you will always feel that they are holding out on you. They’re not exposing themselves, nor committing themselves, to a task or to someone else, to the extend that it would cost them all their time or energy. They’re orderly people, who like stillness, control and solitude.
They like to self-reflect and analyse, and will think about something until they have brought it down into what is black and and what is white.
And they look great with red lipstick. Just look at Johnny Depp😉

I will now go through all 4 types, their “prescribed” choice of wardrobe, and if/ why I think you will benefit from this system, depending on your type and gender.

The four types – wardrobes and genders

Type 1 The Brightest Star of All
Brings lightness, but needs freedom.
Wardrobe: Bright, but light, colors and patterns. Can wear stars, glitter, funky prints and items that would also look great on a 6 year old.
Type 1’s can benefit from knowing their type because they have a precious childlike, funny quality, that can easily be judged as immature. In relationships Type 1’s will experience two major problems: 1. They will have a natural tendency to alternate between disconnect/ connect. This will drive all other types absolutely insane, and not knowing their own nature, it may even drive themselves crazy. 2. Their lighthearted nature makes them easily dominated by the other types, who will think of themselves as more serious and reliable. A parent-child like relationship.
The most famous Type 1 celebrity is no doubt Marilyn Monroe, and almost all male and female comedy actors are also Type 1’s. Especially for a Type 1, knowing who you truly are, and what your dominant energy is, can be the difference between the asylum and a spirit so bright the whole world will love you.

Type 2 Angelina Jolie and The Dalai Lama
Brings peace, but needs connection and detail.
Wardrobe: Subdued colors, flowing S shaped lines, comfortable texture, plain (subdued, subtle) coloring or watery patterns. So from the robe of the Dalai Lama, only the color is a bit off😉
For Type 2’s I ‘m going to make a distinct difference between men and women.
Type 2 women: They can read all this, and maybe they like it, but in general, women who are soft, kind, with a keen eye for detail and able to plan for their household home cooked meals, sweet putting-to-bed rituals, have a smile for everybody, and connect with the whole neighborhood? In general? They’re good to go!
Type 2 women are not in conflict with anyone, and especially not with what’s praised in Western society. So I don’t think I would recommend that they HAVE TO read this book. You don’t.
There are however a lot of female Type 2 wanna be’s, recognizable by being internally torn apart and thoroughly unhappy with their role. They should read anything they can about energy profiling.
Type 2 men? Different story. Because unless you’re the Dalai Lama (or Richard Gere, but that’s kind of the same thing) your Type 2 maleness is going to “collide” (as far as such a subtle flowing energy can clash anyway) with what is expected of you.
So if you are reading this, and this might be about you: do the work. Start doing energy profiling to understand your true nature. And labeling it male or female is a cultural thing. Nature doesn’t think that way. Richard Gere, Hugh Grant, Russell Crowe (!!), Ryan Reynolds. That’s how diverse Type 2 males can be. And I ll let you in on a secret: your type 2 maleness makes you highly attractive to Type 3 and Type 4 women, because we think you’re sweet and want to go to bed with you. Well I do anyway.

Type 3 Madonna

Type 3 Madonna

Type 3 Madonna and Obama
brings transformation, but needs direction and LOTS OF space to move.
Wardrobe: Layered, textured, patterns in darker richer colors often including black, and all animal prints other than zebra, triangles and V shapes and other swift moving patterns.
If you’re Type 3 and you’re still reading this, you’re probably waiting (in vain) for bullet points, the 2 A4 sheets of HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN 5 EASY STEPS or other shortcuts that will allow you to squeeze in energy profiling with training for your triathlon, watching over your 9 children, your Masters study, and management of your own company.
Again this is a Type where I ll distinguish between men and women.
For Type 3 men (Brad Pitt and Obama can stop reading) energy profiling may have little to add. If you re a male living an expression of this energy you fit right into Western society.
For a woman, it might depend on the generation or your upbringing. Carol Tuttle herself had a religious upbringing where Type 2 and 1 energy of women were favored. This meant she felt her rougher, richer beauty, and her powerful energy were always out of place. Energy profiling is her redeeming herself, and all other Type 3 women, who have no idea what to do with so much energy.
If you recognize yourself in the idea of being too much, overbearing, and even unattractive, then energy profiling is just what the doctor ordered.

Type 4: Bold and Striking
Brings stability but needs stillness or structure.
Wardrobe: Bold colors, straight lines, high contrast, smooth fabrics. The only type that is supposed to wear black (and preferably in combination with white).
This is a no-brainer: If you’re a Type 4 then YES read energy profiling. You’re the most reflective and analytical of the four types, you can’t stand not understanding something about yourself or a situation. Yet even you might be unaware of some very peculiar yet dominant features in your personality. Like why you never drive with rock music on. Why group dynamics drain you, when everybody else seems to be fine with this.
There was a time when companies would have group trainings for teambuilding. Do they still do that? I left corporate life 14 years back. Either way; Type 4’s will find the idea of forced and prescribed interaction absolutely revolting. Energy profiling will explain why this is. And why you’re so terribly picky. And bold. And opinionated. And private.
And sexy as hell.
Didn’t say that.

PART 2 ACCEPT YOURSELF

“I feel I was let out of a prision, a prison I didn’t know I was in all those years.”
testimony on the liberating effect of knowing your type, page 175

51bUxfPAGhL._UY250_Last year I was sharing a wine (well, we both had our own glass) and a brownie (after I promised the brownies there are so big, even I don’t get food aggressive) with a yoga teacher Hilke.
She has this sweet earthy energy, and had just started teaching.
“I want people to fall in love with yoga,” Hilke said. “That’s my strongest motivation to teach.”
I nearly choked on my butter sugar combo known as a brownie, when I heard that. For a blink of a second I identified with that role. With the idea of having newbies coming over for just a single class, but still unsure about the whole yoga thing, and me being the good fairy godmother to convert them to the right path. I always give a super warm welcome my new students, but they are people who invested in ten classes minimum already. Whereas Hilke doesn’t need that kind of commitment.
“I know you want to win their hearts,” I said. “I ll send them to you.”

“When any of us tempt to operate outside of our own natural movement, our lives go out of balance and things start to go wrong.”
It’s just my Nature, Carol Tuttle page 171

I will now describe the 4 types, with regard to how they approach travel, with regard to their quarrels (or absence thereof), and their sexuality.

the 4 types: travel and change

Imagine 40 people having to move to the West Coast. The Type 1’s would be all excited about the adventure at hand, and they would be in the best of spirits all along the way. Change and insecurity is where they can feel right at home. Type 2 would start planning what they’d need on the road, what to pack, what is required the first week you’re there. Type 3 would start with when they arrive and then plan their timeline backwards, focusing on the broad picture and figuring out details along the way. Type 4 would rethink the whole move, and would then decide they’re not going. Unless you put a knife to their throat; then they’ll consider it.

the 4 types: How we fight

If your family is experiencing conflict lately, don’t go to the root of the problem. Go to the root of the energy. Whose nature is not being honored?
It’s just my Nature, Carol Tuttle page 174

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type 1: Marilyn Monroe

A type 1 is not very likely to fight you. First of all, a type 1 is the most adaptable of all types! If you change plans, or want to reschedule, or anything like that: expect zero problems with a type 1. If you do bug them (for example because you want them to commit to something, or want to depend on them) they’ll most likely snap, and DISCONNECT. But a Type 1 will be able to forget soon and come back and may even apologize for responding so rude and being difficult.
Type 1’s are unsuitable for arguments because the heaviness of the drama will burden them. Type 1’s have the highest adaptability. Type 1’s adaptable carefree spirit may actually survive something as traumatic as a series of foster homes. But pressing a Type 1 for a stern opinion, a straight line, or a clear statement, is like asking a butterfly to lift a roadblock.

A type 2 will not fight you either. Which, initially, only makes things worse. Because they will not speak! Just worry and be offended in silence. Type 2’s are very attached to their planning, to details, to being connected, and to how everybody is doing. And yet, if they are provoked their passive aggressive silence will be force to be reckoned with!
So like I said: they’re not the ones initiating conflict, but because they can’t respond spontaneously, they will worsen the conflict because 1. the other party will feel uneasy with the silence and the victim role the Type 2 plays and 2. because the other party will be angry at the type 2 for not expressing what they want!
That’s because they really, really can’t.

I have one word of advice for Type 2‘s. Instead of responding straight away, learn this sentence by heart:
“I will have to see how that works for me. I will get back to you on that.”

Should things not work out, a Type 2 will be more motivated than anyone else to restore the peace. Once you get them out of their shell, they will gladly talk with you in detail about everything! Their emotions, what it was like to be angry, what they thought of certain things. Once the danger is gone, the gateways to their hearts are open again, love pours out, and they’ll connect, connect, connect. Fighting with a T2 is a guaranteed slamming doors-free experience.

The type 3, like Obama and Oprah, they’re about transformation and creation. Type 3’s are the only ones who do not naturally shy away from the chaotic energy conflict creates. And not only can they stand the heat, but they will throw logs in the fire as well….making things (from the perspective of the other types) worse. Yet disagreement and working with opposition is inherent to the nature of a type 3. As is the power to save the planet and everybody on it. You have to break an egg to make an omelet, would be a T3 expression.

Type 4’s will not argue, but they’ll put up a boundary, in order to polarize the situation, and eliminate the dynamics. This creates order and draws a very clear line that will prevent people from coming too close. A Type 4 will not negotiate and instead be very clear in their demands, the time frame and the consequences. So that regardless of what the other one does, stillness can return.

the 4 types: Sex and relationships 

This is my personal contribution to profiling. Carol Tuttle and her team are Christians and maybe that is why I have not been able to find any reference to sex (if any) in other settings than marriage. But I think I can make a pretty good guess how the four different types would function in those areas. And this might be where you recognize yourself, right?

Sex Type 1: The Butterfly, the ideal lover.

Here’s the Type that has made the easy switch between connection and disconnection into an art form! So if you’re talking one night stands and casual encounters, here’s the person who’ll be able to tell you all about it.

I ve had two lovers and they were both Type 1. Of in fact I had more “lovers’, but the Type 1’s were the only ones living up to the title. Here’s why.

First of all: Type 1’s are the only ones with a direct interest to keep things light. And their natural behavior to connect and disconnect is a recipe for passion.

But it’s most of all that the other types are just not up to the job of being a “lover”.

Type 2’s are about connection: so they will want to close the gap between them and their partner (and smother all passion with it, probably)
I do have to say here, that Angelina Jolie used to have lovers, between being married to Billy Bob Thornton and starting with Brad Pitt, so obviously there are exceptions to the rule.

Type 3’s will take a good sexual relationship further, to the next level, and use it to create something. A family. A project. Save the world. Probably all three.

Type 4’s are, next to Type1’s, the only ones who can be a lover, as long as the rules of the game are clear. I remember being unhappy the first months, because I had no idea where things were going, but as soon as I had settled into my role as a lover, I was super comfy there. Type 4’s don’t want change, so they ll be loyal. Just not very playful. Which is why they can only be lovers with Type 1’s 😉

Type 1’s are not all sexual connoisseurs. Some may be too easily distracted, to ever let it come to sex.

Type 1’s have a tendency to not take responsibility for their actions, and rationalize WHY they were right, when in fact their behavior was irresponsible. This is not me, this is the book, page 57-58. This will express for example as saying: “I don’t want you to get hurt.” When in fact this means: “I m not taking responsibility when things don’t work out.”

When it comes to sex, Type 1 is really anything goes, as long as it’s playful and light.

Type 2 Russel Crowe

Type 2 Russel Crowe

Sex Type 2: The Ideal Spouse 
Ooooohhh this is good right?
A soft sweet emotional creature making soft sweet emotional love to you. Men just LOVE that in women (although they could see it as too clingy….) and Type 3 and 4 women will absolutely go for this in their guy. There’s a chance Type 2’s will have multiple partners or an adventurous period, but still: count on breakfasts in bed, sweet text messages, and every encounter to be the potential beginning of a relationship. If they don’t feel a connection, a Type 2 will not be going all the way with you.

Sex Type 3: The Action Hero
Oh dear! The heat is now definitely ON! Anything adventurous, anyone that can be conquered, any scenario with lots of action, and here’s the person to see. They have tons of energy, so expect to stay up all night. Out of all the types I would say this Type, along with Type 1’s, are the ones most likely to stray from the path and to cheat. We all can of course. But Type 1 and Type 3 are the two types that can deal with movement, energy flowing, and disconnection/ switching between “situations”.
They’re the least likely to get bored with sex. I think they’d say: “Even if the sex is bad, it’s still pretty good.”
Which brings us to the type who will never say that….

Type 4 Johnny Depp

Type 4 Johnny Depp

Sex Type 4: 50 Shades of Black and White
Here it’s all or nothing. These are people who can go a year without sex for reasons such as: it doesn’t fit their agenda. Which they like orderly and compartmentalized. Sex would be categorized as “leisure”, and spontaneous encounters are absolutely out of the question. If a four would have random sex, they would box that in their head as a cut-off series of experiences and never want to talk to those people again.
A sexual relationship like power play from 50 Shades is more the type of adventure a Type 4 would enjoy! It has boundaries, rules and a clear structure. Also paid sex could appeal to them simply because of the clarity of the agreement. Type 4’s are deeply emotional, and that is precisely the reason any sex outside of a setting where those emotions are appropriate needs to be a controlled experience.

From all the types, type 4 will have the hardest time keeping their sex life exciting. They are so private, and structured, things die out pretty soon. Anyone who has seen 50 Shades of Grey: a playroom that big, and so well stocked, and fantasies so profoundly over the top, that’s pretty much how much it will take to get a four interested in sex again.

So if you have a relationship with a bold and striking woman, or with Johnny Depp, best to prevent they drop the ball, and be sure to keep your Type 4 partner moving. If you give him or her the upper hand, they ll stop having sex.

In which case you may have to buy them a playroom before they start moving again.

REFERENCES

Experienced? This page Confirm Your Type, gives you videos to dive deeper.

Carol’s Blog including a pop up link to the free course and posts with all her videos
– the free beauty profiling course LINK TO SIGN UP
– check out her YouTube channel
– buy her book Carol Tuttle – It’s Just My Nature
– the free energy profiling course 

17 be a natural beautyClosing note from Suzanne M Yoga Nijmegen

I have the card Be a Natural Beauty with me in yoga class this week, and Accept Yourself next week. After that we have a one week holiday Sunday May 1 – Friday May 6.

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